Lets talk about proposals

As its coming close to that time of year when girls can pluck up the courage to ask the guys (or girls) for their hand in marriage, lets talk about proposals.

Do you want the world to see it??

Do you want it to be an intimate affair??

Does a public proposal put too much pressure on the questioned to say yes?

Does it put too much pressure on the asker to make it spectacular?

Here are my thoughts.

Make sure you are both ready for marriage. Just to make sure you are going to get a positive response and not left embarrassed, and heart broken.

Are you old school? Talk to his/her parents first and ask for his/her hand. Way to make the parents love you more.

Do you know what sort of ring he/she will like. Pay attention when walking past jewellery shops or when you casually leave jewellery catalogues laying around. Then plan your purchase.

Now plan your proposal – think about how they will want it. Intimate or spectacular.

Practice what you want to say from your heart. Now is the time to really open up and let them know how you feel. What is it about him/her that tugs at your heart strings, what makes you laugh, what turns you on, let ‘em have it!

Plan your fake story that will end up being the proposal. Don’t get too carried away with the lie, because let’s face it a liar must have a good memory.

Hide that ring. If she/he gets even a whiff that you might propose, even the cushion covers will get removed. So, you better find the perfect spot. My husband hid mine in his motorbike tool kit, needless to say it was safe.

If you are going with a public proposal, don’t forget to get someone to video it or at least take photos. If its intimate, perhaps have your phone close and ready or set up an auto video.

Whatever way you chose – make it yours, take your time and savour every moment. Trust me she/he will appreciate you using the 7 P’s rule, ‘Prior Preparation and Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance’.